Breaking Free from Self-Sabotage: Embracing Your Inner Strength

These last couple weeks have been eye opening…to say the least.

Have you ever felt like you're constantly battling your own self? I know I’m not alone on this: A tug-of-war between who you are, who you could be, and who you're expected to be? 


This internal conflict, the precursors for self-sabotage, can derail even the most ambitious plans. It's a battleground where our weaknesses and desires clash, our thoughts diverge to possible multiple realities and our emotions run a marathon on a loop. All shaping our destinies for better or for worse.

 

The Role of Weaknesses

Our weaknesses are often seen as stumbling blocks, but I’ve always had a sneaking suspicion they could become our tools- powerful catalysts for growth. The pivotal switch is actually knowing what they are. Getting to know yourself is the most impactful way to sculpt you. Imagine a sculptor chiseling away at a block of marble. There are imperfections in the stone however these imperfections aren’t obstacles, but because they are uniquely identified, they can become opportunities to create something truly beautiful and one of a kind. A piece that is rare is usually priceless, much more to one that is one- of-a- kind. Similarly, our weaknesses can be the raw materials we need to forge a stronger, more resilient self.

The key lies in acknowledging our weaknesses without letting them define us. Living characterized by our cracks and edges spreading into multiple scenarios in our daily living is the remedy for our picture perfect plan to pulvarize, instead in order to use our weaknesses for our benefit, I'm learning we must face them. Instead of burying or shrinking away, in the safety of solace and trust, face them with honesty and compassion, understanding that they are a part of our human experience. Without the specific weakness that we each have, we will not be who we are now and we also will not become who we are meant to be because in my experience, it is this mighty tool that helps to shape our desire, decisions and direction towards what we want and also what we don’t want in our lives.

Maybe sometimes when you read what I write, it may sound like me encouraging you to say ‘ to hell with it. I’m going to be me, nasty or nice and who cares about the consequence,’ but its actually the contrary. By embracing our imperfections, we can learn to navigate them with greater skill and turn them into sources of strength.

The Double-Edged Sword of Desires

Desires too can be a powerful fuel for our journeys, driving us towards our goals. We tend not to naturally pursue things we do not desire. However, they can also lead us astray. If not carefully managed, the enemy of our souls often tempts us with desires that are contrary to God's plan for our lives. Listen, we all want things that is sweet in the mouth but may be sour in the belly. The tastes, the experiences, the feelings, the status and more. It’s all good but if we are aimed at using our desires to fuel us into a decided direction of undiluted diva-ness, it becomes essential to discern between desires that align with purpose and desires that wastes our time, efforts and even our destinies.

The Power of Patience

If God had the patience to deal with even His own Son going through what He did and suffering on the cross so the BIG PLAN could be executed, surely He has the patience to deal with us and let our lives play out transitioning into destiny, but do we have the patience to deal with our own selves? A recurring theme of this blog is self love. Self-love means being patient with ourselves, recognizing that growth, whether channeling our weak areas or mastering our desires, takes time. It's a journey filled with setbacks and triumphs, failures and victories, ebbs and flows and that is ok. It is life. It is important to celebrate our progress, no matter how small, and understanding one’s self is no small thing to celebrate.

A Call to Action: Pressing the Reset Button

  • Reflect on your weaknesses: Let’s be honest, atleast with ourselves: What are your biggest stumbling blocks? How can you turn these into strengths? What areas of our life is it most present? Girlfriend, question yourself. And then answer them. Be ready for some hard truth realizations. That is quite a sobering thing.
  • Examine your desires: Are your desires aligned with God's plan for your life? Are your desires even aligned with your plans for your own life? Even deeper, do you even know what your plans for your life are? Are others desiring for you? It is something to think about. Are there any desires that are hindering your progress in the direction you need to go?

  • Practice self-compassion:

So you’ve questioned and answered yourself and you don’t like the answers you are getting, honey, be kind to yourself. Not many of us have the bravery to take a hard look at ourselves, especially during challenging times. But remember, everyone makes mistakes and you are no exception, no matter who you are. Everyone, from time to time make conscious selfish decisions. You are no exception. No matter who you are. Consistently doing so is another matter, so exercise some self-compassion nah. It’s sometimes the only cushion for the cares we have.

  • Seek guidance: You must have an inner circle that keeps you sane and grounded. Wise friends who got your back. If you don’t think you have anyone, know you have us. This community right here- the Limitless ones. Consult with those friends,or mentors, or spiritual leaders. The outside perspective is balancing to the thought life.
  • Embrace the journey: Remember that growth is a process, not a destination. Your weaknesses are yours- for a reason. Your desires are yours- for a reason. They make you you and how you handle them makes you into you too. So enjoy the journey, learn yourself and celebrate your progress along the way.

As it says in Proverbs 3:5-6, "Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will direct your paths."

 

So who's with me in breaking free from the chains of self-sabotage and embracing the incredible potential that lies within each of us?  

 

Love,

Lady Ray

 

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