Spring Boarding to Greatness - Using your NEGATIVE emotions??

 Everyone wears their emotions on their sleeves—even those who think they don’t. Our actions, reactions, perceptions are all rooted in the initial first emotions that were activated and fostered within us. This is why the phrase “the inner child” resonates as it does. 

It speaks of a place that never changes, given birth to and fed in the surplus to sustain its strength inwardly as we grew outwardly.

Yet, these roots shoot and branch into various life aspects with the same sap running through it’s plant veins. For one person, a scenario of growing up in poverty or with difficult to please parents along with low self-esteem watered with the teasing of never having, may create the sap of greed or bitterness which could bare fruits ranging from “petty” stealing to drug deals with a high promise of payout to crime even when they don’t “want” to on the negative spectrum.

Emotions never lie. They are a gauge to what REALLY fuels our actions.

I had a discussion with a friend about promiscuous ladies and why they do what they do. We debated whether it was mainly a high sex drive (as many males actually think) but discovered the roots usually ran much deeper, straight into the emotional starting point of their existence.

Emotions and desires fuel needs and these needs merged with thought (also impacted by emotions, circumstances and point of reference) gives way to action.

Some of us are doomed to make a plethora of wrong choices straight from our cores start. Many blame their family. Others blame their circumstances. Maybe having no one to lean on. Maybe.

The point of realization is always a point of potential change in trajectory though. There are other things we can add to that recipe that gives us the advantage and balances out our inward parts that try to lead us to self-sabotage:

Cultivating a New Narrative

While our emotional roots are powerful, they don't define our destiny. We each do. We have the ability to recognize these roots, understand their influence, and cultivate a new narrative that empowers us to achieve our goals.

1. Self-Awareness: The first step is to become aware of your emotional roots.Do you even know what stirs you? Pay attention to your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, and try to identify patterns that may be connected to past experiences. If something or someone triggers us and we almost always end up thinking, speaking or acting out anger, or hurt,or greed or even lust, then through observing repetition we can identify the root emotion.

2. Emotional Intelligence: Developing emotional intelligence can help you manage your emotions effectively. This involves understanding your own emotions and the emotions of others, and responding to them in a healthy and constructive way. One way to do this is to understand the why behind your emotions. I know of people who never feel anger. Instead in situations where being angry is justifiable, the emotion that the feel is hurt instead. This is usually because as a child that emotion if hurt was well fed. It is therefore the first to surface and replaces every other negative emotion- all rooted in the why of unaddressed childhood hurts.

3. Positive Affirmations: Years ago after a really bad relationship, taking time to reprogram my mind from all the negativity that was poured in was the best move I could make. Affirmations can help reprogram your subconscious mind and shift your mindset toward positivity. It pours in the positive and displaces the negative. Repeat positive statements about yourself and your abilities to reinforce a more empowering narrative. A narrative that develops into the full story YOU want.

4. Mindfulness: Mindfulness practices, such as meditation and deep breathing, can help you stay present and connected to your thoughts and feelings. This isn’t about following mindless trends. Practicing presence and knowing how to clear your head are life saving tools to not allow yourself to run a marathon strictly on feelings or emotions. This can help you take the pause necessary to identify and effectively challenge negative thought patterns.

5. Goal Setting: How are you going to use these emotions to get you where you have decided you want to go? I’d love to take a group of people and teach them EXACTLY how to do this at some point. Setting clear and achievable goals using what you have in your arsenal can give you a sense of purpose and direction. Focus on goals that align with your values and aspirations, and break them down into smaller, more manageable steps. Using what you know about yourself to help navigate.

6. Seek Support: Don't be afraid to seek support from friends, family, or a therapist. Talking to someone can help you process your emotions and gain new perspectives. Feel free to send me an anonymous message here at https://ngl.link/thelimitlessladyray if it will help towards you seeking support for you.

Just know, you can do all things.

Love,

Lady Ray~